Relationships can be established for a host of reasons – attraction, convenience, obligation, mutual benefit, friendship, dominance, lust and the list goes on. Most people would place happiness high on their list of reasons to be in a relationship, but if happiness is contingent on a relationship, why are so many who enter into partnerships for even the best of reasons often so unhappy?
People are either givers or takers – or varying degrees of both. The nature of human relationships, therefore, falls somewhere between love and addiction, which is to say strong or weak based on the desires and maturity each individual brings to the table. It is customary to ask the bride and groom whether they are willing to forsake all others; to resist the erg of sending their affection elsewhere. If strength is based on how much a person is able to resist, then self-indulgence weakens an individual as well as any relationship to which they are associated. Read the rest of this entry »