An in-law recently asked my wife to do them a small favor. They offered to pay us. We said, “don’t be silly” then they insisted – you know the drill. When my wife told me she didn’t feel comfortable taking money from them, she couldn’t verbalize why which got me thinking. We see this couple at nearly every family event but we don’t consider each other family. They each make a good living so the money doesn’t mean anything. So why offer payment in a form which means so little to them and even less to us? They could have invited us over for dinner which would possibly draw us closer together. Such an act would honor the recipient. Making payment reduces someone to the status of an employee.
The couple had no intention of using the money to do anything but say thanks, but such disconnects are likely due to a matter of faith; when one embraces man’s economic system while the other trusts in God’s. Read the rest of this entry »